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Our path. “I’ll go ahead of you; clearing and paving the road.” God. (Isaiah 45:2 The Message)

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It’s been a stress filled year. With Lance’s job being made redundant, me working at Home Depot and us not knowing what God has in store, we have made decisions based on feelings and not necessarily on facts. Because of this uncertainty I didn’t put my garden in: a decision I now regret. I did decide to get the replacement shoulder surgery because our insurance was about to be over and I needed to do it or have a more complex surgery later. (On that note, God provided in an amazing way. My $4,000 deductible was miraculously met by an online writer friend.) Now I spend my time in intense recovery. So the Man is doing all farm chores himself. Not easy. Not fair. Stressful while he works a full time job. What we hold to is that while we can’t see it clearly, God’s plan is still in effect for our lives.

‘God is striding ahead of you. He is right there with you. He won’t let you down. He won’t leave you. DON’T BE INTIMIDATED. DON’T WORRY.’ Deuteronomy 31:8 . (easier read then lived) The Message. So, God has laid out the path before us, we will follow it, but first, we have to step out  on to it – and of course before that can happen, we have to be clear of the other tempting easier, wider paths.

There’s a chance we might end up back in Australia. There’s a chance he will get an offer for a job back at Microsoft (which is what he wants), there’s  a chance we will buy a ten acre property complete with greenhouses and mature fruit trees and out buildings and a teeny tiny house. Chances rain all around us. Different paths with different end results. It’s confusing, stressful and can be a bit life stalling.

 

So we do what we know. What we know is that we need to sell this house. The property layout doesn’t meet our needs and the nightly climb to the master bedroom is something we both could do without . So, while we wait on God to show us THE path, we do what we can. We prepare the house for sale, less clutter, clean up the pastures, sell the animals. We get dirty, we clean up.   And we look and wait for His direction.

Some people might think it’s a silly way to live. ‘Just pick the life you want and live it’, they think. But, for us, as His children. we’d rather wait on Him and live the LIFE HE WANTS. Living in the center of His will is much better than living geographically where I want, although there’s no reason they both won’t be the same.

We are practicing faith walking where His faithful walk by faith and not by sight. (2 Corinthians 5:7.

In the meantime we work. Well, the Man works and I do what I can to assist. To borrow the words of the famous poet: “I took the road less traveled by, and that made all the difference.” Robert Frost.

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“We reorganized: your postion has been eliminated.”

WHERE HE LEADS, I WILL FOLLOW…..

 

I’ve been a stay at home mom and then a stay at home wife for the last 15 years. I would refer to myself as a trophy wife, but I’m not as shiny and cold as a statue. I am, however, able to refer to myself as a kept woman. My husband does a fine job of that. We meld together to support and encourage one another, but it was our choice early on in our marriage to follow the biblical mandate for marriage …where the wife is the help mate, created second after the man, not to be less than he, but to complement him, and to be his companion.

 

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For some this is so confusing. They assume because I’m my husband’s help mate, it makes me less than. This is so far from reality I couldn’t even give an adequate measurement. To be his help mate has meant this:

  1. When he felt the Lord leading him to become a Pastor, we prayed about it, talked about it, discussed it and when it was time to leave the Marine Corps to pursue this venture, I was supportive and not whiny.
  2. When the kids were in school and I had started college, he got called to a church out of state. The idea was I would finish college at the new place, but then kids and work and church life took over, so that got put on the back burner..but I had peace in what I was doing.
  3. When he developed debilitating headaches, I encouraged him to seek help. He isn’t one to go the doctor preferring instead to let things work themselves out, but it was obvious this wasn’t going away. And we worked through the treatment together. We prayed about it together, and together we found a remedy. It’s together we continue the ongoing treatment to make sure these headaches don’t take over again.
  4. It means being there when he needs me and being away when he needs it.
  5. It means praying for him and our children and our family.
  6. It means trusting him. It means we know we complement one another and we understand each has unique God given roles.

He, of course affords me the same things. But, mostly, we are individually who God has called us to be. We are, individually, accountable to Him, and thus, when we are then accountable to one another, it’s much easier. I am free to be the woman God made me to be with all the gifts, talents and flaws, made me to be and loved by a man who continually puts me and his family before him.

There’s a story going around now written by a man who says his wife divorced him because he left the dirty glass by the dishwasher. He said he realizes now it was so important to her that he should have done it then. It’s a respect thing. This piece of writing is getting passed around Facebook and many of my friends re-post with a resounding, AMEN, and when I comment – with a different take, people aren’t so understanding.

While they agree with him, I think when we begin to keep track of who does what for who in a ‘I love you more because I did ____”, we start to expect payback. The things I did to help my husband lead our family in a godly way, weren’t done to get anything, except to fulfill my role. I didn’t think, “I did that so he should do this,”…no, we’re a team, working together. When spouses start expecting payback, or depend on their spouse to make them happy, complete or fulfilled, the relationship will be strained. Each must be in tune with God, that is where our hope, joy, love etc, must come from. No human can do that. Because we’re all flawed. But serving your spouse without thought to payback is refreshingly freeing and wholly biblical. It’s the way we should live our lives. Selflessly.

Instead of getting angry because your spouse doesn’t do something you want, or does something you don’t like, try praying about it and then calmly communicating with them. Don’t make a list, even a mental one, of how disappointed you are in your spouse for their failures. Look instead to the many successes. Ask yourself how you can make things easier, better, calmer. Are you selfish? Do you spend a lot of time wishing you were away from the family, from your husband? Have you talked to God about that because it’s not the way the marriage is supposed to be.

 

When my husband got a call that they had reorganized his company and his position had been eliminated, I was shocked. This is a man who meets his sales numbers, has received numerous company awards and has millions of dollars projected in his pipeline. How could they get rid of him? And, then I got angry. How dare they dismiss him like this. Obviously his former manager has no business sense. But, once they anger dissipated, I found myself praying for him, for his former boss, and for his future position.

Our adult children have been our biggest champions, calling to check on us, offering help, networking for us and praying with us. They remind us that God has this under control and there’s no reason to fear. Because of those encouraging words, we remembered the time my husband had lost three jobs in one year. But, we never missed one paycheck. Maybe things won’t work that way this time, maybe they will. But my prayer is that God will bless him with a job that is perfect for him. Something that fits well, and with good managers. And seeking how I can be helpful during this time. Because that is my job. Help mate..I’m not less than, I’m not an after thought, I’m not unimportant, or irrelevant. I am created by God and I am happily the wife of a man who seeks to serve God and love his family. Selflessly we serve one another. Together we are united and serving our one true king, Jesus.

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God can supply all my needs except…?

My God will supply all my needs

My God will supply all my needs

“And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19 ESV or “I can do all things through him (Christ)who gives me strength.” Phil 4:13

These two Bible verses are my lifelines…I repeat them often and regularly through the day. The truth in these two verses are applicable in any situation. Life going good? Praise Him! I can do everything because Christ in me, gives me strength. Stormy gales blocking my view? Finances tough? Can’t really put my finger on the uneasiness in my heart? Not to worry; God will supply every need according to his riches in Christ Jesus. Feeling lonely or alone? Re-visit – God will supply every need…even my loneliness. Yes, these two promises from God fulfill every aspect of my life. Yet, I struggle.

In my heart and head I believe. But in my thoughts, I doubt. I doubt that God really can help me with my weight loss, or my health. Sure I claim these verses and I pray every day…a few times a day, that my will power will be strong enough to do what I have resolved to do, lose weight and keep it off, and yet, I fail. I know I am supposed to write. Write for him, spread his word in fiction and non-fiction, yet, my actions; soliciting the advice and counsel of writer friends, show that I seemingly have more faith in other authors than I do in God. I know this is not how my heart feels, but it is how my life acts.

I don’t purposefully draw the curtain over certain areas of my life trying to shield them from Him, but when I don’t act on the promises he’s made, or the promises I’ve made to him, I am indeed blocking him from certain areas of my life. Not saying He can’t work in those areas still, just saying it’s a smoother, less angst filled journey then stumbling over the rocks and tripping on the uneven path of doing it on my own.

I guess all this to say, I’m determined to remember to APPLY those lifelines to my every day journey and not just think ’em in my head 🙂
Got areas of your life you’re not completely trusting Him in or maybe just giving Him extra help? Join me and try a hands off approach for one week. Just trust Him. When you feel like helping out, pull back and give it to Him…let me know how you go!!!

In His Grace, Mercy and Love LM

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32 years later and here we are – crazy, madly forever in love.

Today is Lance and my 32 wedding anniversary. On this day, 32 years ago, nine pm, we stood in line at The Candlelight Wedding Chapel on the strip in Vegas. I, a recent graduate of high school and he, a recent graduate of USMC boot camp. Ah. Young love. (Blind love?)

Thanks for loving me then and for continued love even though you know me intimately. 🙂

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;  6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

I love you. Can’t wait for you to come home tonight !

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